The people who need our love the most are imperfect humans, not perfect ones. – Oscar Wilde
Over the past 28 years, I have spent tens of thousands of hours of spiritual practice. I sat in silent silence for a long time, not moving a muscle.
At that moment, I felt grace and light flooding into my mind and body.
Stillness and silence settled deeply within me, and my mind departed into the infinite ocean of consciousness.
But while those experiences were blissful and wonderful and important, none of them ultimately helped me deal with what mattered most.
Yes, they helped me understand that there are infinite parts of me, parts that are untouched by the chaos and pain of the world.
And that is very valuable.
How to feel our humanity and heal
But those experiences didn’t help me deal with other limited and imperfect aspects of myself.
I’m talking about the side of myself that I keep neatly tucked away under my bed or in my closet. My fears, insecurities, doubts, aggression, and human need for control.
For me, it wasn’t until I started practicing mindfulness meditation that I realized how some meditation practices were better attuned to help me feel and heal a very fallible, very human part of myself. discovered.
And it turns out that from that fertile soil of mindfulness, a different kind of self can begin to sprout. No longer do you turn away from a part of yourself while embracing the rest of yourself.
Through mindfulness, I have found that I can accept everything with kindness. And in that I find a more lasting peace.
A form of fearlessness
I love when Dr. John Wellwood, a renowned psychologist, psychotherapist, and spiritual practitioner, talks about this. He talks about it in the context of fearlessness.
“So, while delving into one’s emotions may seem like a luxury, the willingness to be open about one’s experiences is a form of fearlessness.” I taught that fearlessness is the willingness to accept fear and feel it. Fearlessness means meeting, facing, accepting, making room for, and welcoming whatever we are experiencing. It can also be extended to be a willingness to forgive, accept, and surrender; for example, recognizing, feeling, and being open about the need for healthy attachment and connection, especially when one has been hurt in a relationship. That actually takes a lot of courage.”
great poet, oscar wilde, I would say it a little differently. But it’s a similar message. He said:
“It is the imperfect human beings, not the perfect ones, who need our love the most.”
Everything is food for the soul
And finally, this poem is from a nice, friendly chapbook that I like to read early in the morning.it is called wise woman’s way Written by Red Hawk. If you, too, enjoy poetry as a way to access the deep vaults of your heart and mind, I heartily recommend this book.
For smart women, it’s all about food
To feed her soul with a steady stream
Thoughts become heightened emotions.
The soul feeds on changes in energy,
Turn negative energy into love.Don’t be fooled by dreams
Desire revolves, and smart women don’t lose their stance.
And not subject to every change of mood.
The soul must be adequately nourished in order to grow and mature.
Just like a chick eats the yolk to escape its shell.
The soul consumes negativity to escape hell.
How light enters
For me, these excerpts and poems point to the lasting, stable strength of the soul and peace of being that comes from accepting and including our shadows.
Admittedly, it’s hard work. Yes, it may break your heart. You will definitely come face to face with dark parts of yourself. It is the imperfect people who need our love the most.
But as someone once said, this is how light enters through broken parts.
It’s okay here. That’s the surprising truth about mindfulness. Everything is always here. It is an exercise in curiosity and presence. We ride the breath into the present moment and into the zone of discovery.
And when we choose to look with that gentle presence and curiosity, we return home and begin to feel and heal areas of our being that have been neglected for so long.
Please let me know how this lands and how it lands for you as well. I would love to hear it.